Q. How are you managing with Christmas preparations?
My Christmas preparations are always very flexible and kept as simple as possible. I'm a lone parent and have been for the past 16 years. Whilst I haven't had the money to lavish on my children as they were growing up, the main advantage of living in a lone parent household is that you no longer have to live with that ever-present threat of domestic abuse which has resulted in the perpetrator pulling the Christmas tree over on more than one occasion. I'm also an older parent; I'm 54 now and over the years I've come to realise that Christmas it's just one day day and it just needs to be good enough (echoing Winnicott's notion of being a good enough mother) it doesn't have to be perfect. This year, we had our Christmas dinner on Christmas Eve because my eldest son was due to visit his dad on Christmas Day. My middle son remains estranged from me which is very sad, so along with with my now 17-year old son it was just the three of us. And we still enjoyed ourselves.